dating /finding someone

hi,
i really feel the need to find someone who would care about me as much as my pets do and have someone who would accept me as i am.. i go either way but lately i just want to find a kind woman about my age with similar beliefs. i feel the ned to be held, to be comforted, not so much sexual but that would be alright. i like dark hair and dark eyes, feminine. girls that look like boys are a turnoff. but i am interested in men too. i prefer dark hair and dark eyes too. specifically for the guy but for girls i would go for auburn and red and brown hair and green eyes or dark blue, no light blue eyed people.
i dont mind disabilities as long as we can have great intellectual conversation. my preference is to keep my sex life private. its just me
where could i even start to look for people to date?
some days i feel so lonely for the human touch
laura